by Shane Thomas

We’re going to start with a football analogy (don’t worry, we won’t be here for long). Arsene Wenger and Sir Alex Ferguson – two of the game’s most venerable managers – have long thought that bravery is not revealed in players who throw themselves into hard tackles, but in the creative player who’s on the receiving end, one whose legs are a topography of welps and bruises, yet continue to demand the ball in order to keep creating.

shane1The same way this courage is overlooked in footballers, it’s also an unrecognised quality in how women of colour are forced to mediate with a world constructed to harm them. It’s one of the biggest maculas in our society, yet it elicits little more than a shrug from those it doesn’t directly affect.

While this is partially sustained by White Feminist Inc.[1] habitually demeaning women of colour, my focus is on the many men of colour who weaponise their patriarchy, with the effects often felt disproportionately by black women.

Our world is structured to despotize black bodies, unless it can extract use from them. Often the only use that can be gained is in the form of the athlete or the entertainer, and has a huge bias towards able-bodied, cis, black men.

Far too many don’t actually want to stop the school bully, but want to be one. Through multifarious methods, we try and shane2
hector black women into being “not too…”. Not too sexual. Not too loud. Not too joyful. Not too human.

All one has to do is look at the social media account of any prominent black woman to see the minefield of abuse they experience. It puts one in mind of this scene from The Matrix Reloaded. Mikki Kendall once stated, “Every bigot in town comes to my [Twitter] mentions sooner or later.” And she’s not alone[2].

This online hostility sometimes replicates itself in the outside world in the form of street harassment (as superbly detailed by Pia Glenn), abuse in the workplace, or the plagiarism of one’s work. Instead of acting as a rampart, plenty of black men function as a rapier, singling out black women for habitual aspersions, particularly those who are dark-skinned. Or a preference – as explored on this site by Emma Dabiri – to associate oneself with non-black women[3].

The endgame is to try and assail all women of colour into silence, because under kyriarchy, the only good WoC is a supplicant. Existing in a noxious Venn diagram of transmisogyny, Islamophobia, and misogynoir, with attendant axes of oppression also factoring on occasion.

Searching to explain this learned harmful behaviour, Dr Ornette Clennon warned of “falling under the spell of black priapism and aspiring to this limited commercial branding of masculinity that pivots on homophobia, misogyny, and emotional infantilism.”

To return to my football allegory about players being kicked, how many of us, if not doing the figurative kicking, have still watched it happen, and not said or done a thing? How many of us have been complicit in attempting to squeeze WoC into a narrow alcove of what they should aspire to be, like some heteronormative, patriarchal game of Tetris?

This is exceptionally articulated in Cecile Emeke’s poem, Fake Deep: “Can you work, cook, clean, twerk and raise children independently? Only a state of the art black woman for he. Forget that good old-fashioned humanity.”

brave0011Just because something is seen as normal doesn’t make it acceptable. Their bravery is only necessary because the rest of us have been so cowardly. We also shouldn’t forget that I’m not saying anything that WoC haven’t been saying for generations.

While WoC merit fulsome praise for their courage, that can only be a comma in this conversation, not a full stop. In a recent interview, Ifeyinwa Frederick stated: “The black woman who is able to take hit after hit and keep standing up. Show me that woman, and I’ll show you someone who has probably spent nights crying in silence.”

The aforementioned courage isn’t special because WoC are superhuman. It’s special because they’re not. We shouldn’t be lauding them for carrying on, despite the kicking. We should be playing our part in making the kicking stop.

A few weeks back, Janet Mock – who’s dealt with both transphobia and misogynoir – delivered a sensational monologue (on Nicki Minaj’s waxwork figure at Madame Tussauds), ending it with the following: “It’s due time that we stop gawking, violating, pointing and policing black women’s bodies, and begin protecting, and celebrating, and centreing black women’s lives.”

And not just the funny black women, or the clever ones, or the ones who “do it for the Vine”. It would signal true societal transformation if we stopped trying to tell them who they should be, and instead give them the space to tell us who they are.

One of my favourite quotes from the late Dr. Maya Angelou is, “Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.”

It’s a virtue exemplified by women of colour on a daily basis. They shouldn’t be the only ones.

[1] – This from Cate Young – author of feminist blog, Batty Mamzelle – remains the essential primer on white feminism.

[2] – But it wouldn’t make this less of a problem if she was.

[3] – Ever notice the amount of black footballers whose spouses are white?

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“Two Weeks Notice” is Shane Thomas’s bi-monthly column encompassing. Pop culture to sport, and back again“ Shortlisted for EI Arts, Culture and Entertainment commentator of the year

Shane can be found on Twitter, both at @TGEISH and @tokenbg (and yes, the handle does mean what you think it means).

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2 thoughts on “Women of Colour: Their Courage. Our Cowardice

  1. Totally agree with this statement: “It would signal true societal transformation if we stopped trying to tell them who they should be, and instead give them the space to tell us who they are”. (y) I would like to add that relationships should be free of social bias, prejudices, and racial cliches.


  2. Why, am I so……First, I wouldn’t be so loud if everyone else would stop acting as if they are deaf!
    To, me this article speaks volumes to the struggle of our culture today…Especially, in the realm of film..There, are so many of us who’ve paid our dues to get to where we are and have to literally break the glass ceiling within the “Boys Club” field of cinema! We, are sassy due to us having the confidence needed to take our dreams from our mere pens and pads and create long lasting impressions of truth on the screen…Why, are we not attractive to some? Because, through our struggles we didn’t allow what we didn’t have hinder our courage from within giving us the upper hand in advancing through the elements of self – employment, home schooling (college courses taken from home) while raising family instead of relying on the government to assist…I, represent the under served communities that many write about..>Yet,our power lies within the purchases that we make…We, are a 1.1 trillion dollar consumer spending population and the power comes from us opening our wallets. We, as women should support one another no matter what the zipcode or color….The, change begins now! ACT NOW! Chicago, mom pays tribute to the legacy of #MJ4LIFE


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